with A.Z. Araujo - Episode 31:

I’m Pissed Off

with A.Z. Araujo - Episode 31:

I’m Pissed Off

CUSTOM JAVASCRIPT / HTML
It happens to everyone; you wake up pissed off and don't even know why. Everything is hitting you at once, and you find yourself down a hole that you don't know how to escape from. Do you make it worse and go back to bed? Or do you take a minute, create space, suck it up and kill the day? Growth happens when you can allow yourself that moment of unhappiness and make the necessary course corrections to get shit done. This moment is temporary; focus on the happiness you can control and go after it.
I Woke Up Pissed
  • ​I'm pissed; the conditions for me to be happy are not ideal. My back is achy; I woke up late, contractors are calling me early; I am pissed off at the whole process of getting my day going. I know I have to workout, drop off my daughters, and get ready for work. I am thinking about everything I have to do, and I am irritated at the entire process. 
  • ​It didn't set my day up in a way that I could kill it. When you wake up in a hole, it is hard to dig ourselves out. I used to think it was my attitude, and my mindset of all I had to do. A lot of it is a genetic makeup of who we are. 
  • ​I was doing research last night on how to be happy, and I read an article that states 10% of people's happiness is due to their life's circumstances. We work out every day to look good, we work hard to get the car we want, or to live in the house we have always dreamed of. The research suggested that even those things bring happiness; it is short-lived and doesn't last. 
  • ​I can remember my first car, and I was so happy at first, but after the first few months, I stopped caring so much about this purchase I made. I found myself at the same level of happiness I was before. Everything we are working for is for those small spurts of joy, and it doesn't last long term.
  • ​It comes from achieving a goal or having that material object, maybe even a sense of security. Every day we work to get what we want only to give us a small blip in our current mood. As I read on the research said that about 50% of the reasons we are happy or unhappy is our genetic makeup.
  • ​Regardless of how hard we work at our business, relationships, and obtaining the things we want; half of our happiness is already predetermined through our genes. What about irritability, sadness, and depression; that is said to be a mental illness. 
  • ​We have all seen those individuals that are driven, every day; it seems they are on fire. Some have an advantage over others; some people wake up pissed off or sad and defeated. Others are happy and can't wait to start their day. For me, I realize that I am irritable, and I do get pissed off a lot, and things trigger me. I have done the right things over time not to allow it to prolong itself, overwhelm me, or create the conditions for me. 
  • ​I have learned to take specific steps so I can control it; understand the irritability or sadness, you may be feeling, you have control over. The next 40% is due to intentional behavior; that is what creates happiness and mood. 
  • ​We do have a fighting chance to create the conditions we need to kill the day. Even though you may wake up in a huge pit, you still can climb out of it and not allow it to overwhelm you. This morning I am pissed off at the world, and I don't know why. I'm in the gym, and I'm pissed off that I am there, and it's tiring me out. I am in a mindset where I don't want to do anything.
  • ​I feel like punching something, screaming at the top of my lungs; I have built-up energy that isn't positive. I have been in this place before, and some of you may face it daily. What are the things we can do to offset that? I have created a lifestyle which has created a foundation for me; as a result, if I do certain things, I will win the day and the week. 
On of Those Days
  • There are days when I am really happy and can't wait to start my day. I go to the gym, and I'm energized and all pumped up; on those days serious things happen for me. I also realize that some days, I am not going to feel that way, and today is one of those days. I'm feeling better by talking about it; certain things pissed me off this morning, maybe there was a full moon last night. 
  • ​Carla and I only had a few words this morning; we weren't fighting, but we both woke up in a mood. You need to understand that we aren't going to wake up every day energized and ready to deal with our clients. It goes back to the foundation you have been laying in the past. Over the last week, I have seen reminders on Facebook about what I was doing four years ago. I shared those, and I got a few comments about how that was consistency, and that is my foundation. 
  • ​Before on days like this, I would have made it worse; I would have got up and got into a fight with Carla. Then, I would have found a way to fight with my kids on the way to school. I would have found ways to yell at my dogs, blame them for something. I would have gotten progressively worse from an already deep pit. We need to understand that to be in that place is okay because me admitting I am pissed off is one step closer to not being pissed off. 
  • ​Keeping it to yourself is only a means to make things worse, and I have done that. We have all taken a bad situation and made it worse because we weren't able to express ourselves or create space to unleash on someone: the guy that cut me off, or the Starbucks lady who didn't make my coffee correctly. Things poke at you, even more, when you aren't in that place. My coffee is always right, but today it wasn't; it's like the world knows you are heading down a slippery slope. 
  • ​There are ways to make it worse, and the universe sets up ways to make it worse. It's nonsense because there isn't anyone out to get me; my kids and spouse aren't trying to make me more irritable. My team isn't out to make things worse for me; I am fixated on the minor stuff and the shit that doesn't matter. 
  • ​When we are in a place of not feeling the full power, we need to stop fixating on the things that don't matter. I don't know how your feeling today, maybe you're on fire. When I'm on fire I don't fixate on the small things; I let them go. When I'm not happy, I fixate on the things that don't matter.
  • ​I have realized that I see my progression with my finances, my lifestyle, and my overall happiness; it's not because I have more money, but because I have been able to take more control of my intentional behavior. 
  • ​If 50% is genetic, that doesn't mean all 50% is negative; I have a certain standard that may be over 50%. I have to understand that I still have full control of over 40%, and that is your job. Even though I was pissed off, I went into the gym, and I had a good workout. Though it didn't help my irritability, I set the foundation. 
  • ​We can be in this place of despair right now, but that might be the genetic makeup. You still have full control of the other 50% to make it better. I am responsible for containing the conditions, and I will not blame anyone else, I know the things I need to do to have a great day. Now I am slowly maneuvering myself, understanding what makes me tick, and I still did the things that will fuel me to keep going. 
Stop Making It Worse
  • How can I make things worse? By refusing to do what is good for my body, my mind, and that is the difference. I don't know why I am feeling this way today, and I don't need to know. I need to keep going and understand that things will change, because this is only for the short-term, especially if I am setting the conditions and not thinking the conditions have already been set for me. I am going to kill the day because I showed up, regardless of how I was feeling. 
  • ​Even though there is a baseline for me, and your baseline could be different. Maybe yours is sadness, and you need to get up and be in that place. You could be sad or angry while your working out; refusing to do nothing will only prolong the amount of time you are there. It's a choice, you won't always be happy, and your genes might be against you being happy every day. 
  • ​You still have control of how you will respond to it. I have a list of what I need to do today, but before I do that I am going to drive to another Starbucks and make things right. I have big shit to accomplish today, and so do you. Regardless of where you're at now; if you're overwhelmed or feeling energetic, double down, on those feelings. If you are in the hole like I am right now, start digging yourself out. 
  • ​Set the conditions to make yourself win; I didn't make things worse for myself today, and I am proud of myself. This is where I have created the worst arguments in my marriage, the worst decisions in my business, blown up on my clients, teammates, or employees; this is where I have made things worse. Even though I was in that pit, I have done the right things, including doing this Mindset Mastery, to guarantee I will win the day. 
  • ​I am further ahead then I was at six this morning because I didn't make things worse. Refuse it, understand it is all under your control, and this too shall pass. Give yourself some space, and don't make it worse. I am going to sit at that Starbucks by myself and journal out what I am feeling, come back to my team, have my meetings, and kill it. You have that control, too; we aren't always on fire, and that is okay. 
  • ​Regardless of where we are or how much success we've achieved, we always have a certain baseline, and the feelings we are going to feel. We have to continue to move forward, and a portion of that is intentional behavior. A sense of accomplishment that will contribute to our overall happiness and fulfillment. It is on you. 
  • ​I have set a foundation, and have full control of conditions moving forward regardless of how pissed off I am. When you can shift it within hours, that is when real growth happens. I used to let these feelings overwhelm me, and I would make things worse. Instead of it being a 2-hour thing, it would be a two-week thing, because I messed things up with Carla, my kids, and business. I tried to repair the problems I had created for myself when all I had to do was create space. 

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CUSTOM JAVASCRIPT / HTML
It happens to everyone; you wake up pissed off and don't even know why. Everything is hitting you at once, and you find yourself down a hole that you don't know how to escape from. Do you make it worse and go back to bed? Or do you take a minute, create space, suck it up and kill the day? Growth happens when you can allow yourself that moment of unhappiness and make the necessary course corrections to get shit done. This moment is temporary; focus on the happiness you can control and go after it.
I Woke Up Pissed
  • ​I'm pissed; the conditions for me to be happy are not ideal. My back is achy; I woke up late, contractors are calling me early; I am pissed off at the whole process of getting my day going. I know I have to workout, drop off my daughters, and get ready for work. I am thinking about everything I have to do, and I am irritated at the entire process. 
  • ​It didn't set my day up in a way that I could kill it. When you wake up in a hole, it is hard to dig ourselves out. I used to think it was my attitude, and my mindset of all I had to do. A lot of it is a genetic makeup of who we are. 
  • ​I was doing research last night on how to be happy, and I read an article that states 10% of people's happiness is due to their life's circumstances. We work out every day to look good, we work hard to get the car we want, or to live in the house we have always dreamed of. The research suggested that even those things bring happiness; it is short-lived and doesn't last. 
  • ​I can remember my first car, and I was so happy at first, but after the first few months, I stopped caring so much about this purchase I made. I found myself at the same level of happiness I was before. Everything we are working for is for those small spurts of joy, and it doesn't last long term.
  • ​It comes from achieving a goal or having that material object, maybe even a sense of security. Every day we work to get what we want only to give us a small blip in our current mood. As I read on the research said that about 50% of the reasons we are happy or unhappy is our genetic makeup.
  • ​Regardless of how hard we work at our business, relationships, and obtaining the things we want; half of our happiness is already predetermined through our genes. What about irritability, sadness, and depression; that is said to be a mental illness. 
  • ​We have all seen those individuals that are driven, every day; it seems they are on fire. Some have an advantage over others; some people wake up pissed off or sad and defeated. Others are happy and can't wait to start their day. For me, I realize that I am irritable, and I do get pissed off a lot, and things trigger me. I have done the right things over time not to allow it to prolong itself, overwhelm me, or create the conditions for me. 
  • ​I have learned to take specific steps so I can control it; understand the irritability or sadness, you may be feeling, you have control over. The next 40% is due to intentional behavior; that is what creates happiness and mood. 
  • ​We do have a fighting chance to create the conditions we need to kill the day. Even though you may wake up in a huge pit, you still can climb out of it and not allow it to overwhelm you. This morning I am pissed off at the world, and I don't know why. I'm in the gym, and I'm pissed off that I am there, and it's tiring me out. I am in a mindset where I don't want to do anything.
  • ​I feel like punching something, screaming at the top of my lungs; I have built-up energy that isn't positive. I have been in this place before, and some of you may face it daily. What are the things we can do to offset that? I have created a lifestyle which has created a foundation for me; as a result, if I do certain things, I will win the day and the week. 
On of Those Days
  • There are days when I am really happy and can't wait to start my day. I go to the gym, and I'm energized and all pumped up; on those days serious things happen for me. I also realize that some days, I am not going to feel that way, and today is one of those days. I'm feeling better by talking about it; certain things pissed me off this morning, maybe there was a full moon last night. 
  • ​Carla and I only had a few words this morning; we weren't fighting, but we both woke up in a mood. You need to understand that we aren't going to wake up every day energized and ready to deal with our clients. It goes back to the foundation you have been laying in the past. Over the last week, I have seen reminders on Facebook about what I was doing four years ago. I shared those, and I got a few comments about how that was consistency, and that is my foundation. 
  • ​Before on days like this, I would have made it worse; I would have got up and got into a fight with Carla. Then, I would have found a way to fight with my kids on the way to school. I would have found ways to yell at my dogs, blame them for something. I would have gotten progressively worse from an already deep pit. We need to understand that to be in that place is okay because me admitting I am pissed off is one step closer to not being pissed off. 
  • ​Keeping it to yourself is only a means to make things worse, and I have done that. We have all taken a bad situation and made it worse because we weren't able to express ourselves or create space to unleash on someone: the guy that cut me off, or the Starbucks lady who didn't make my coffee correctly. Things poke at you, even more, when you aren't in that place. My coffee is always right, but today it wasn't; it's like the world knows you are heading down a slippery slope. 
  • ​There are ways to make it worse, and the universe sets up ways to make it worse. It's nonsense because there isn't anyone out to get me; my kids and spouse aren't trying to make me more irritable. My team isn't out to make things worse for me; I am fixated on the minor stuff and the shit that doesn't matter. 
  • ​When we are in a place of not feeling the full power, we need to stop fixating on the things that don't matter. I don't know how your feeling today, maybe you're on fire. When I'm on fire I don't fixate on the small things; I let them go. When I'm not happy, I fixate on the things that don't matter.
  • ​I have realized that I see my progression with my finances, my lifestyle, and my overall happiness; it's not because I have more money, but because I have been able to take more control of my intentional behavior. 
  • ​If 50% is genetic, that doesn't mean all 50% is negative; I have a certain standard that may be over 50%. I have to understand that I still have full control of over 40%, and that is your job. Even though I was pissed off, I went into the gym, and I had a good workout. Though it didn't help my irritability, I set the foundation. 
  • ​We can be in this place of despair right now, but that might be the genetic makeup. You still have full control of the other 50% to make it better. I am responsible for containing the conditions, and I will not blame anyone else, I know the things I need to do to have a great day. Now I am slowly maneuvering myself, understanding what makes me tick, and I still did the things that will fuel me to keep going. 
Stop Making It Worse
  • How can I make things worse? By refusing to do what is good for my body, my mind, and that is the difference. I don't know why I am feeling this way today, and I don't need to know. I need to keep going and understand that things will change, because this is only for the short-term, especially if I am setting the conditions and not thinking the conditions have already been set for me. I am going to kill the day because I showed up, regardless of how I was feeling. 
  • ​Even though there is a baseline for me, and your baseline could be different. Maybe yours is sadness, and you need to get up and be in that place. You could be sad or angry while your working out; refusing to do nothing will only prolong the amount of time you are there. It's a choice, you won't always be happy, and your genes might be against you being happy every day. 
  • ​You still have control of how you will respond to it. I have a list of what I need to do today, but before I do that I am going to drive to another Starbucks and make things right. I have big shit to accomplish today, and so do you. Regardless of where you're at now; if you're overwhelmed or feeling energetic, double down, on those feelings. If you are in the hole like I am right now, start digging yourself out. 
  • ​Set the conditions to make yourself win; I didn't make things worse for myself today, and I am proud of myself. This is where I have created the worst arguments in my marriage, the worst decisions in my business, blown up on my clients, teammates, or employees; this is where I have made things worse. Even though I was in that pit, I have done the right things, including doing this Mindset Mastery, to guarantee I will win the day. 
  • ​I am further ahead then I was at six this morning because I didn't make things worse. Refuse it, understand it is all under your control, and this too shall pass. Give yourself some space, and don't make it worse. I am going to sit at that Starbucks by myself and journal out what I am feeling, come back to my team, have my meetings, and kill it. You have that control, too; we aren't always on fire, and that is okay. 
  • ​Regardless of where we are or how much success we've achieved, we always have a certain baseline, and the feelings we are going to feel. We have to continue to move forward, and a portion of that is intentional behavior. A sense of accomplishment that will contribute to our overall happiness and fulfillment. It is on you. 
  • ​I have set a foundation, and have full control of conditions moving forward regardless of how pissed off I am. When you can shift it within hours, that is when real growth happens. I used to let these feelings overwhelm me, and I would make things worse. Instead of it being a 2-hour thing, it would be a two-week thing, because I messed things up with Carla, my kids, and business. I tried to repair the problems I had created for myself when all I had to do was create space. 

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